Being such of wonderful women for the big day, doing everything that I think that was good at that point of time, I really proud to myself. The day when ‘Tok Kadi’ confirmed that I’m someone’s wife, I’m happy that certain thing that I enjoying (and forcing sometime) has reached to the end. The trips to ‘mandi bunga’ sessions, the trip to the restaurants, cafés (or may some clubs which I can’t recall now? Being such a good girl ah =)), hoping that I might be bumping to a prince charming, the trip to meet up some old friends and by chance if they can introducing me to ‘someone’. It is too much for me to say that my life is complete now? I have a concrete reason to live, do, walk and work now. Everything seems to fast as my eyes blink.
The chance to have full power to sort out my own wedding, give me more than headache, nervous breakdown, mental illness, lack of sleep and short of time. The feeling has gone mess in its way. I have a tendency to make mistakes (a lot of them), tend to confuse on what the best for me, tend to be choosy and of course tend to be tense when my budget has burst more than I expected. For sure, I learned a lot as I go. At least, I took charge for everything as I wish, I know what the color suit to me, the food go well to my taste, the deco that fine-looking to my eyes, the wedding flow that how it should turn to be and the guest who I think can be the best companion ever (credit to my hubby as being the most understanding partner along this process *wink*).
For a long time I really understood how so many people struggling to choose for their wedding theme. Don’t worry, I had too many of them too. To the certain point, I wanted to have a traditional matrimony comes with ‘silat and kompang’, when I watched the wedding scenes in the Hollywood movies; I think I should go for it too. When I went for the holidays, and I wanted it to be a special day and having a wedding in the train or bus or in the street, should be cool enough!
But when I reached to this age, the theme is does not matter to me. I just wanna it to be simple, nice and surrounded by the people that I adore much in my life. We had decided to have only ‘akad nikah’ (vowing ceremony) and ‘makan beradap’ (eating session) at my hometown. I wish to have a big kenduri to celebrate with the relatives, but it will cause my parents tiring in the whole day. Don’t you agree that the good things always come in the small package? =) Instead of having the parents, auntie or relatives comes along to the bride’s side, my hubby only came with a few of his friends. Being a new comer to Islam, he had facing a lot of obstacles to dispute his move (I will story in details about this in my next post). But he had a good time during the eating season. At least nobody will question ’what’ ‘why’ ‘who’ ‘when’ about our wedding. We can even eating while laughing and gossiping and finish all the foods served, especially ‘ikan patin masak lemak cili padi’. *never see this kind of pengatin*.
Theme color for my side’s event was pink and I had forced all my family members and relatives to wear pink, includes my father, brother (and in law) and nephew. Everyone was complaining to how difficult to get pink outfit for them and especially for guys. Who cares… this is my wedding anyway! (So mean?)
Our wedding dress was peach pink. Only one outfit for the event and the price is RM300 only and still can be worn for the others event. *save*.
The reception’s dinner was in cream and black, with a background of cream and red. We had it one month after our akad nikah event. This is the good way to save money and time since we were the “one man show” to run this wedding event. At least it was worked for us okey! (Tell me if it work well for you too). Speaking about the wedding dinner venue, we are the amateur who become specialist now till can give you an advice hahaha. All kind of restaurants, halls, hotels and gardens that we had ask for the quotation and surveyed. At the end, we chose the Felda Villa Restaurant, Jalan Semarak Kuala Lumpur. We had reasonable price and can accommodate about 300 guests since I just wanted the small wedding gathering with the close family and friends only. At least, I can recognize all the friend attended. It’s really embarrassing if I can’t remember who come and not to my wedding.
“You know that you look nice in that wedding dress…”
“I think the photographer had edited my photo well (just referring to those photos that I uploaded in FB)…”
“I saw you in your wedding dinner lar…”
“oh really…gulp”
“I think the photographer had edited my photo well (just referring to those photos that I uploaded in FB)…”
“I saw you in your wedding dinner lar…”
“oh really…gulp”
It’s really turn out as a garden wedding theme that I envy so much. I wanted this dinner more cozy and relax in a mixture of English and Chinese style. We were rented our wedding dress from Venice Wedding Galery Jalan Loke Yew. We had a pre-wedding photo done by them as well, so it was 2+1 package together with that wedding dress. It was really cheap, around RM2, 300 inclusive of make-up too.
We included the Yam Seng session which is a must have in Chinese wedding and I was so surprised when most of my Malay friends are never had this. Thank God that they were enjoying it so much.
What is your first thought if you look at this sign? “RSVP?”. Even in French words, I’m pretty sure that everyone is aware about it. Just to put in another way, RSVP is when the person sending the invitation wo¬uld like you to tell him or her whether you accept or decline the invitation or will you be coming to the event or not? Etiquette rules followed in most Western cultures require that if you receive a formal, written invitation, you should reply promptly, perhaps that same day. This is something that we didn’t get smooth as we planned. I’m not sure either most of them are not understand what it means or too lazy to bother.
We as a hosts who are planning a wedding reception (not easy okey!), this is important from a practical point of view, because we need to know how many people to count on and how much food and drink to buy. More important, though, is the simple courtesy of responding to someone who was nice enough to invite you, even if it is to say that you regret that you will not be able to attend. *headache*
Another big wave we had during the dinner when out of 400++ quests that we invited; only 300++ were turn up even in the RSVP said that they will be coming. I’m trying not to be calculative here, but if they take this invitation as important as how we appreciate them, at least just put aside what was the reason behind it. Only once in lifetime that I get married or might be others people’s lifetime. It doesn’t look nice when people had put so much hard work just for you to sit, watch and eat during the dinner, end up the chair left empty. Or if you have known that you will not be able to turn up, at least notify early for the hosts to make another arrangements or to invite another guest, which for God’s sake really wanted to attend too. It’s better than make the hosts feels embarrassing and sad to see no people to turn to their wedding. You wouldn’t feel it until you had faced it one day. *what you give, you get back*.
Needless to say, those who attended had a smashing time. It’s just ordinary Malay & Chinese wedding but organized with our full heart and sincerity. So much details and efforts were we put into it and all of the guests appreciated it as well, I’m hoping.
The big celebration has come to the end but for us as a newlywed it is just a start of our new life together. As we go home, may this day be memorable for all of you and to us too. We would like to thank to all the families and friends who had sacrificed their time to help us a lot with the preparation and not to forget to those who are attended. You know who you are and may God bless you forever.
Amin.
What is your first thought if you look at this sign? “RSVP?”. Even in French words, I’m pretty sure that everyone is aware about it. Just to put in another way, RSVP is when the person sending the invitation wo¬uld like you to tell him or her whether you accept or decline the invitation or will you be coming to the event or not? Etiquette rules followed in most Western cultures require that if you receive a formal, written invitation, you should reply promptly, perhaps that same day. This is something that we didn’t get smooth as we planned. I’m not sure either most of them are not understand what it means or too lazy to bother.
We as a hosts who are planning a wedding reception (not easy okey!), this is important from a practical point of view, because we need to know how many people to count on and how much food and drink to buy. More important, though, is the simple courtesy of responding to someone who was nice enough to invite you, even if it is to say that you regret that you will not be able to attend. *headache*
Another big wave we had during the dinner when out of 400++ quests that we invited; only 300++ were turn up even in the RSVP said that they will be coming. I’m trying not to be calculative here, but if they take this invitation as important as how we appreciate them, at least just put aside what was the reason behind it. Only once in lifetime that I get married or might be others people’s lifetime. It doesn’t look nice when people had put so much hard work just for you to sit, watch and eat during the dinner, end up the chair left empty. Or if you have known that you will not be able to turn up, at least notify early for the hosts to make another arrangements or to invite another guest, which for God’s sake really wanted to attend too. It’s better than make the hosts feels embarrassing and sad to see no people to turn to their wedding. You wouldn’t feel it until you had faced it one day. *what you give, you get back*.
Needless to say, those who attended had a smashing time. It’s just ordinary Malay & Chinese wedding but organized with our full heart and sincerity. So much details and efforts were we put into it and all of the guests appreciated it as well, I’m hoping.
The big celebration has come to the end but for us as a newlywed it is just a start of our new life together. As we go home, may this day be memorable for all of you and to us too. We would like to thank to all the families and friends who had sacrificed their time to help us a lot with the preparation and not to forget to those who are attended. You know who you are and may God bless you forever.
Amin.
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