“My wife had 3 times miscarriage before our 1st baby and I’m a D&G doctor, can you tell me what I can do to prevent it?”
He is a doctor, he should know better!!!!!
2 months before my marriage, I was taking the Folic Acid (Fertility Supplementary) and Evening Primrose Oil (Dietary Supplement) in order to increase my fertility level.
First month… failure
Second month… period!!
Third month…. Yes! Yes! Yes!
Believe it or not, we had a big butterfly companied us for a dinner in 3 days on the roll. Like an old folk said, if the big butterfly comes to our house, it is a symbolic of somebody will be visiting the house. So you know already, how this story will be going right?
In our family, we do have our own magical history to know our pregnant status. My mom will normally have been given something by ‘someone’ in her dream. She had a diamond for my sister’s pregnancy and had necklace for my youngster sister’s turn (I wish if it was real). As for me, someone had given her an egg but after a moment, the egg slipped out of her hand and fell.
That was a symbolic of my case. I was pregnant for about 6 weeks before miscarriage. I remember how excited I to get the pregnancy test result after 1 week missed my period cycle. 3 days after that, I had a heavy bleeding and a doctor from Klinik Bersalin Razif, Klang had confirmed that I had miscarriage.
He had advised me to do the D&C (Dilation and Curettage), one of the most common surgical procedures performed on pregnant women to remove dead fetus in the womb.
Me: “It’s pain doc?”
Doctor: “You are given a full general anesthetic, so you will not feel anything during the procedure”
Me: *relieve*
It was only 20 minutes procedures and definitely I didn’t feel anything. The last thing I remember was the pain on my hand after the injection. But, by the time I woke up, the funny story begun.
I vomited a lot when I was still laid down on the moving bed. The nurse said it was due to the anesthetic effects. But once I reached my bed at the ward, the unusual pain attacked my tummy. Muscle contractions and somewhat by pressure on the cervix, to be exact. I think, this is the delivery pain that people always talk about. Oh my God, I had it before the time.
The pain plus the on-off anesthetic effects, makes me really out of conscious. I screaming like a hell and for sure the whole open ward can hear my voice. Sorry to my hubby as he need to face the embarrassment. He tried his best to make me calm and until he shut my mouth with his palm. Hahaha. End up, the nurse came with some pain killer injection to make sure that I rest well without that kind of ‘ugly’ screaming.
I got one week medical leave to rest and long list of food and drink that I can’t consume for the whole 2 months. Don’t be kidding!!!. I didn’t go back to my mom house for confinement as just only for miscarriage kind of confinement (actually I don’t want more list from my mom hehehehe). So I stayed at my sister’s house to rest and bring the 3 cats along.
My hubby had a day trip to his mom’s house to get some Chinese medicine for me. Imagine, apart from long list of confine foods, now I need to consume the Chinese and Malay traditional herbs to keep my body healthy (but my tongue not healthy after all). The best part, due to some ‘ikut pandai sendiri’ kind of confinement, I got the wrong message on the confinement thingy.
Just for your information, the confine foods for delivery and miscarriage are totally different. As after your delivery, the body will be very cold, that’s why you need to wear socks, ‘bertungku (massage with hot stone)’, eat gingers and some hot foods and drinks. But for those who had miscarriage, their body will be very hot. Hence, the food and drinks that they consume should be something can remove the body heats. What I had for my confinement days was all the delivery ladies had during their confinement.
So I had bleeding during my confinement and the next day I had overnight trip to my mom’s house to heal it. My mom gave me to drink the warm water mixed it with the ‘biji selasih’. The bleeding had stop after 2 glasses of water. Alhamdulillah, it works well for me as when your body heat, the biji selasih will help to remove your body heat away.
Thank God as I had my diet well during the confinement. For sure that was a good memory to remember apart of losing the future baby for both of us. The doctors said we will need at least around 2 -3 months before planning to get baby again. Just to make sure that my womb will be rest well before it starts working back.
So please pray for me that I will get twin babies ya!
Note: my cats are used to sleep in the aircond, so at my sister’s house was very hot without proper ventilation. Pinky had 6 hours sleep after went back to our house, in the aircond for sure. Hahahaha. Demanding cat!
otw back house!
6 hours sleep non stop hehehe
